Are boyfriends obligated to celebrate your birthdays with you?

Question

Are boyfriends obligated to celebrate your birthdays with you?

Answer 1

Yes, If he isn't responsible enough to handle a simple birthday once a year, how could he ever be responsible for taking care of a whole family 365 day's year if you ever decide to marry him.



Come on, he should be able to treat you special at once a year. It's your day and if he loves you' he should be able to take care of you enough to make it special.

Answer 2

Yes b/fs are obligated to celebrate your birthday. Though immediate family comes first. (mother, father, brothers and sisters). Depending on how far along the relationship is, b/fs may be invited to the family celebration, but if they are not, it's their duty to work around it. Either celebrate it a day earlier or a day later, if their schedule is busy... then the following weekend. If they make it the weekend, it better be really special. Dinner and a movie, maybe going to the coast spending a day strolling on the beach watching the sun set. I'd really love to spend a day with him at a bed and breakfast just cuddling and doing some window shopping, going to a nice restaurant for dinner.



This is what I expect from a boy friend... anything less, he would be history. (I tend to pamper the guy's when I'm their g/f and if they can't take care of me one weekend a year... that tells me a lot about their character.)

Answer 3

If they don't then that tells you something about them. Even a nice card with something sweet written in it would be good and cheap. I always let my boyfriends know that I like romantic things such as them cooking dinner for me or giving me a back massage. But yes, because they are in your life they need to celebrate your birthday. A lot of men do not know what to get a woman so you can make suggestions like I did. Tell him you would love a picnic lunch at some pretty park or a candle lit dinner for two.

Answer 4

Nobody is obligated to celebrate your birthday.



However anyone who considers themselves to be your friend of any kind should care about important days in your life and be there for you/with you.

Answer 5

Well lets start with are you in the same part of the country---



But in general seeing an others behavior as an obligation is going to lead to distress in a relationship down the road.

Answer 6

Nobody is obligated to ANYTHING, or at least they shouldn't be. Your significant other will be EAGER to spend your b-day with you if they really care about you. You shouldn't have to compel them. If they don't feel any committment and could care less about spending this day with you, then I'd really wonder what the relationship means to them..... if they have better things to do or feel that their presence isn't really important, something is very wrong with the whole relationship. But in fact you really can't compel anyone to do something they don't want to. If they don't want to come and be with you, so be it. Just be careful about how much time and effort YOU will put in the relationship from now on, because they clearly don't deserve much.

Answer 7

The key word here is "obligation". If it's an obligation, then it's not caring for the other person. If one cares about the other person, it's not an obligation, it's something they want to do.

Answer 8

I would definitely say yes. This is your boyfriend and especially on a special day like a birthday, it should definitely not be a question that he will spend it with you.

Answer 9

I guess that depends on your relationship.



But I'd say in general, yes, significant others spend birthdays with each other.

Answer 10

I think yes. If you are in a committed relationship there is no reason they shouldn't spend your birthday with you.

Answer 11

They shouldn't be obligated; they should want to spend bdays with you...

Answer 12

If they love you yes

Answer 13

no. Boyfriends should be allowed to do whatever they want

Answer 14

phuk no