please be honest, need help. How will this come off to him?

Question

I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a month now. He spent Christmas with my family and has been over to dinner with my family once before. I'm 20, he's 21 and I still live at home. My mom invited him to eat dinner with us at a restaurant on New Years day. He said he'll come if he can but doesn't know yet if he can. My older sister who still lives at home too has become increasingly unpleasant since I brought him to meet our family. I think she's very jealous of the fact that I've found someone, and the last time he visited she even became snotty towards him. Now I don't want him to come to dinner with my family on New Years because of this. I'm even thinking about not going to the restaurant and spending the day with him if I can. My question is, how do you think he would feel about it if I told him that I don't want him to go to dinner with my family because of my sister's jealousy? Would he think I'm embarrassed of him, or that I'm not welcoming him into my family? Neither of those are true, I actually think he's better, nicer than my family and I really don't want him around that unpleasantness. But I don't want to offend him or scare him away.

Do you think I should uninvite him from dinner? Also, would it sound bad if I mentioned it's because of my sister's jealousy? I'd really appreciate your advice, thank you.

Answer 1

I'd talk to him. Let him know that your sister feels very jealous about the fact that you have a sweet boyfriend and she doesn't, and she's been showing it. If he's willing to accept that and know that it's just jealousy that you can't do anything about, let him know that he's been invited to NY's dinner with your family. Leave it up to him to decide whether he wants to put up with any sniping that may go on. However, maybe you also ought to suggest that you spend the day with his family since he spend Christmas with yours--that would show him that you are quite willing to play fair. He might not be ready for introducing you to his family yet though, but you ought to give him the option. Or maybe you and he ought to go out to NY dinner without any family, just the two of you. That would solve everything (at least for that day).

Answer 2

i dont think you should uninvite him. just give him the 'if you cant make it, we'll do something before/after' so he has an out. tell your sister or mother that he should be shown respect just because he's your bf. if your sister is unpleasant, that will reflect on her, not you. you can tell him she's a witch sometimes, but dont tell him she's jealous - let him come to his own determination about that if he even cares to

Answer 3

I think you both should go to dinner and ignore your sister's bad behavior. She's the problem, not you, your boyfriend and the rest of your family. Everyone else will notice her behavior and she'll eventually be called on it, especially if everyone else is getting along. Then the focus is on her. If you bail, the focus will be on you and what your problem is. Why deprive everyone else of your company because she's behaving badly? Let her take the heat.

Answer 4

This is NOT your problem nor is it your current boyfriends. This is your sisters problem and she is the only one who can fix it. You just live your life don't tip toe around her because she is jealous. Your boyfriend is invited for dinner bring him. She will just have to get over it.

Answer 5

I would tell him about your sister. He might take it as a compliment that shes jealous of how happy you are. If he still wants to go, he'll know what to expect, and wont get blindsided by it.



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Answer 6

Ask yourself, what will cause more damage, my sister, or my uninvite?



I think you should let him go to your house but warn him about your sister.



Ask your sister whats wrong too...

Answer 7

your parents have to have a talk with your sister and tell them that she embarrass you in front of him and that you feel real bad about the situation

Answer 8

forget your sister.

Your boyfriend can handle her jealousy by simply ignoring it.

You going to live your life by how your sister behaves? i dont think so.