Should I be upset with my friend and question our friend over a Christmas gift?

Question

One of my best friends is going out of state for Christmas tomorrow morning. so she stopped by my place to give me a Christmas gift. I got her a 25k necklace for Christmas. I've been saving up for 2 years to get her that because she's always wanted this necklace.

All she gave me was $20 for Christmas. She said she had no idea what I wanted. Now I told her I didn't appreciate it and we got into a big fight over our friendship.

Did I overreact? I asked some of my other friends and they would be pissed as well. But they can be "yes friends" sometimes and tell me what I want to hear. :/

Answer 1

None of her business if you want to give an expensive gift, far too expensive, she may only be able to afford $20!

Answer 2

I understand your frustration but that was your choice to buy her that. I would be in shock if my friend gave me a necklace costing that much. She probably had no idea you were buying her something in that price range. But Christmas is about giving and spending time with people. I would definitely apologize to her and try to fix your friendship

Answer 3

You may be an idiot.

Answer 4

nnaybe, she didnt have to get you anything at all, nnaybe you should apologize

Answer 5

Because you failed to use a dollar sign before the 25k, but you did use a dollar sign in front of the 20, I do not believe you actually spent $25,000.00 on a gift you casually gave to someone who stopped by your place before they darted out of town. Anyone who actually would give a $25,000.00 gift to someone would typically have real plans surrounding that type of gift giving or at least wait until the recipient came back to town to avoid gift giving on the fly as she is darting out the door.



Furthermore, there is no 25k gold, as in 25 karat that I am aware of (usually it is 10k, 14k, 18k or 24k).



Therefore, I think we can strike this story up to your "creative imagination".

Answer 6

You made a choice to spend a bundle on a necklace. She chose to spend 20.00. Have you exchanged extravagant gifts in the past? If you have, her 20.00 now is cheap. If you have given modest gifts in the past, this pricey one would be out of character and would be a huge surprise. We cannot know what the deal was in the past.

Answer 7

You are the one who decided to spend a ton of money. Did you have any kind of arrangements on what to spend on each other.? Have you spent a lot of money on gifts for each other in the past? Is their any reason why your friend would of known you were going to spend a lot of money on her gift?



Did you, out of the blue, with no past history of giving extravagant expensive gifts give this to her? And then you expect her to assume that this time around you would be giving each other expensive gifts??



Spending $25,000 for a necklace. For a friend. I call troll post.

Answer 8

You spending that amount of money on a gift was totally your choice, so what was the intention behind doing so? For the pure authentic sentiment of giving to a friend or the expectation you would receive a gift of equal or close to equal value? What is the priority for you? The sentiment or the value? Your friend may not be in the financial position to spend much money, or she simply felt her gift would be appropriate for you. Look at the basis of your friendship, do you place an expectation on others that they will always do as you wish? You being upset is valid for you, but recognize why your friend may not understand your reaction.

Answer 9

BS. You would not have spent anywhere near that amount of money ! Lol

Answer 10

Hell yeah I would be pissed off if I gave someone a $25,000 necklace and all I got was $20.

Answer 11

You should NOT be upset with your friend. There's nothing for you to be upset about.

Your friend didn't ask you to save for 2 years to buy her a 25-karat necklace, and she had no idea you were going to give her an expensive gift as a Christmas present. You made that decision all by yourself.



But all she gave you was a $20 gift card? She didn't have to give you ANYTHING, you know..



BTW: There's no such thing as "25 karat" gold. Karat weight is 10 karats, 14 karats, 18 karats, or 24 karats. If someone sold you a necklace and told you it was 25-karat gold, you wasted a lot of money on a karat weight that doesn't exist, and you got took big time! Go kick yourself and apologize to your friend.

Not only that, but when you wrote that you gave her a "25k" necklace,"25k" is an abbreviation for $25,000. You might have spent a few bucks for a necklace, but I don't think you spent $25,000.

Answer 12

Stop lying about you spending " $25,000 necklace" Lmao dude get over yourself .....

Answer 13

I don't think you should be mad. It's not normal to spend that much money.

Answer 14

Your story is a zero on the believability scale. Nobody spends that amount of money on a friend's Christmas gift.

Answer 15

You spent that money of your own volition, but apparently it had strings attached. To expect similar return and have a fight over your friendship is a bit much, don't you think?

Answer 16

No - friendship isn't about money or gifts.

You don't deserve a friend at all.

Spending anything like that on any item at all is insane! No-one NEEDS jewellery, and most people aren't so shallow as to care about having or buying expensive items. You could have got her a lovely necklace for $25 to $50.

But if you care more about money than friendship, you soon won't have any friends at all.

Answer 17

There's nothing like the holiday spirit to bring out the pettiness in people. You chose to give her that gift, and gifts shouldn't come with strings attached to them, unless that sting is a ribbon.

Answer 18

Are you insane? Or just so rich you have money to burn? Ridiculous.

Answer 19

Did you give your friend some ideas or hints that you wanted??

Answer 20

25K? are you nuts! that's worth a car! there are men who didn't pay that much for an engagement ring. unless you are all trust fund babies, I'm shocked you would do that. talk about overkill!!