Who should pay for dinner in this circumstance?

Question

im going out with a guy tonight for dinner. it is out first dinner date. ive only ever been to a movie with him where he paid for both tickets and another time i went to his house, so nothing had to be paid for..

this afternoon he asked me to go out with him bowling but i couldnt go that early so i said how bout we do that another time and we just go out for dinner tonight..
so who should pay? i dont mind paying half or even all of the bill but i would just like peoples opinions of who should pay? should i pay because i suggested the idea of dinner? :/ or will he pay because its the first dinner date??
thanks

Answer 1

Back when women were not a dominant presence in the work force, there was no question that a man should pay for the meal. Not so much now-a-days. I find it to be very gallant of a gentleman to pay for the expenses of a date he asked me on. But if I'm any part of that decision making, I always like to be ready & able to pay for my share. (Even both shared if I have invited him on an expensive date.) I just don't make a habit of mentioning this to my suitor in case he would find it offensive. If he makes a comment such as, "I can't afford that this week," then I know to say, "No problem, I can." Because the objective of dating (to me) is to get to know a person in many different atmospheres. Even how they handle the inequity of finances can say a lot about a man.

In this modern day of "dinner w h o r e s," I think that showing a willingness to pay for our fair share will also show our commitment to a true relationship. http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=dinner%20whore / http://www.salon.com/life/broadsheet/2006/01/12/dinner_whores/index.html / Even if it's only friendship & nothing more.

In your case, I'd tell tell the guy, "Since I suggested dinner, I think it's only fair if I pay my part of the tab." If he says nothing, then he might need your financial help for this date. If it's not a problem, then he can always tell you so.

Answer 2

Yeah this is the modern day where men and women are treated as equals and both have jobs so I would say split the bill and if he refuses to let you pay half then just go with it and say that's very nice of you : )

Answer 3

I'm from the Old School,and the man ALWAYS pays. A real man NEVER accepts or borrows money from a woman.

Answer 4

Whenever it's a date or a guy girl date the guy should always pay!!

Answer 5

In modern day society, because youve already gone out, its safe to say you should split the bill

Answer 6

man pays

Answer 7

Offer to pay just to show him you're polite and thoughtful, but ultimately let him pay. :-)

Answer 8

I think you should split the billl.

Answer 9

he should pay. doesn't matter.