How to Deal with Insulting People ?

Question

I have a friend who I'm really close to and who I share a lot if personal stuff with. I really like her BUT she's always find very subtle, manipulative ways to insult me or cut me down and it's hurtful and frustrating.

For example, in our last text conversation, while recounting a story to her, I explained that FAQ means frequently asked questions and then she said that it was insulting to her that I thought she didn't know what it meant. Then I said that I thought she just might not know and she said that I am reminding her of her sassy little sister. I said that I'm gonna ignore that comment and she said "It's not going anywhere..."

So how do I react when this girl (Who I'm really close to and enjoy spending time with) gives me a comment that's irritating and has a bad aftertaste, so to speak?

Please keep in mind that I don't want to end our friendship, I just wanna improve it without needing too much confrontation

Answer 1

It sounds like your friend takes things to personally. I suggest you both give each other space. That way, you can have your cool off moments. I think sometimes when friends hang out together to long. They can get tired of each other. I guess it's like being around someone 24/7. Even I get annoyed with my good friends. But, I still love em.

Answer 2

I don't actually see how the incident you recounted is all that insulting. I'm kinda on her side here - if someone tried to explain to me what FAQ meant, I'd find it pretty condescending. Maybe instead of taking offense when she says she feels insulted, you ought to think about what she was saying and consider whether you might have been acting offensively yourself.

Answer 3

I think the next time she says anything mean here's what you need to say "grow up, and get over it"... I don't know how old the two of you are. But if you are old enough then the both of you literally need to grow up. Either tell her your sick of her saying rude comments, or go to a countsler.

Answer 4

Does she always insult you? She might have low self esteem and might enjoy hurting your feelings. She's not such a good friend if she's doing that to you. She might feel that just because she knows everything about you she can treat you that way. You should talk to her and tell her how you feel and let her know it hurts your feelings.

Answer 5

This is a good reminder to me of how we, as women, over think. Sometimes we got drop things or make the other person laugh! Just shake it off.

Answer 6

Tell her how you feel, and how she makes you feel when she says those comments. She needs to think before she talks.