This guy sent this message to me, what do u think of it? i'm confused!!?

Question

I sent him an email saying sorry because I really liked him and he didn't seem to show that he liked me back but he sent me this email back..

" Hi. It's okay, I understand. Why are you so worried? Cheer up, you're a brilliant person, there is nothing stopping us from being friends but you don't want us to it seems.. this message is probably going to be misinterpreted but hey that's the internet! Please don't take this email the wrong way. Smile! Take care x "
it's a bit weird huh? what do u think of it? does he like me? or does he secretly dislike me? advice needed please!!

Answer 1

He likes you. But he doesn't like you in THAT way. He feels guilty that he doesn't feel THAT way because you are such a nice person and he doesn't want you to dislike him for it. He pointed out that you didn't want to be friends but, thinking it was slightly aggressive to point it out, also added the message might be misinterpreted (As being slightly nasty or aggressive), hence the nervous joke of 'That's the internet'. Here is clearly a person who is friendly, nice and likes you but, unfortunately, doesn't like you in the way you like him. Him being a nice guy and all, tries to let you down as well as he can but feels immense guilt by doing it, almost to the point where he would say yes to you out of guilt which, if you are nice too (Which a presume you are), isn't fair on him.



However, experience has told me that a certain degree of manipulation has to come into play if you want to entice a friend of the opposite sex to see you as boyfriend or - in this case - girlfriend material, e.g. casual flirting, being there for them if anything goes wrong, make a innocent but caring move towards them when they are feeling sad and vulnerable for some reason, this could turn into an awkward moment between two people which is highly fertile land for romance or a sudden kiss to occur. Either move on or spend quite a large amount of time and psychological effort to win him over. But the latter will only work if he even has a slightest bit of interest in you. If he isn't full stop, nothing will work really. Find out what he thinks of you from people who know him, it is amazing to hear what people say about you when you aren't in the same room as them (That can be interpreted as either positive or negative).



Good Luck.

Answer 2

You should try calling him or talking in person because emails do get confusing. You both need to make sure you know what you want and what the other person wants. If he doesn't want to talk about it, then just leave him alone.



Edited: After seeing the other answers, they are probably right. I still think you should just try once more and make him be a man about it. If he doesn't want you like that, then he needs to say that. Just be prepared for the truth though.

Answer 3

he means exactly what he wrote, he doesn't dislike you he just isn't interested in being more than just friends. Its important for you to continue to be his friend though because it seems he thinks you may not want to be his friend if it means you cant get more.

Answer 4

sounds like a brush off to me. Read the book, "he's not that into you". great book and you can take that information seriously.

Answer 5

He is not romantically interested in you - it's pretty clear and straightforward from what he wrote.

Answer 6

he doesnt like you like *that*, looks like his way to get out of being cornered without totally dissin' you.

Answer 7

its a nicer way of saying " **** off "

Answer 8

he is not interested in you