How do you deal with tipping?

Question

I can only tip people by leaving an anonymous handful of coins where they'll find it, I can't tip someone to their face. The last time I got my hair cut, I deliberately gave the hairdresser £2.50 extra, and he gave it straight back - I was too embarrassed to say anything like 'Keep the change, please.'. I suppose I'm afraid they'll think I'm being condescending. And there's the problem of trying to tip when you've paid with a large note which leaves you too much change(say, a fiver) to tip with.
Can anyone give me any - well - tips on tipping?

Answer 1

Like for a hair cut, I say thank you and then add, this is my way of saying "well done." Most will appreciate, no matter how small the gesture.

If you don't feel like it is really enough you might say "I don't have much over today, but I do want you to take this small token of my appreciation."



--That Cheeky Lad

Answer 2

IF it's just overpaying with a note, say rounding up to £10, I usually say "That's O.K." There can be a problem at a hair dressers where you pay at a cash register and it's not always the person who cut your hair who takes the money. In restaurants it's fine if they bring your bill on a saucer. Just leave the amount you want to pay inclusive of any tip, or leave some of the change on the saucer. I think, "That's O.K" or just a hand gesture when they try to give you change is better than saying "Keep the change".



I don't know if this is age but I used to find tipping quite embarrassing. I don't anymore, possibly because now the person I tip is usually younger than me. I'm now self-employed and I was quite embarrassed when someone said to me "Keep the change." I'm not when I receive extra for Christmas or if someone volunteers to pay more than my usual fee. I never expect a tip but appreciate it when I get it.

Answer 3

A lot of places now put all the tips in a jar and distribute it to all staff so it defeats the object of tipping and individual for a good job done. To be honest, at £80 for a cut and colour, I feel that the hairdresser has had enough - I have also been going to my hairdress for 8 years so, I am guaranteed business. In resturants, just a couple of pounds left on the saucer - absolutely nothing if I have had bad service - I vote with my feet and will never return. I work in an office and help many members of the public - no tips for me!

Answer 4

The reason he handed you back your change is because you acted all embarrassed. You need to take charge of the situation and be more direct.



Here are two tips for tipping hairdressers:

1. When you hand him money you want him to keep, say "Thank you, that's for you."

2. When you have a large banknote and you want some change back (say you've given a £20 note for a £13 haircut), hand over the £20 and say "Thank you, could you just give me £5 in change?"



Notice that the key thing is to say "thank you" and tell him what you want him to keep. There's nothing to be embarrassed about!

Answer 5

for jukebox- where are you from?????



I'm a waitress, and no way do i find being tipped in coins rude??!!! (no offence in tended to you- just wondered if it were a cultural thing)



Any money is good!!



In England- it seems to be that 1p left on the table is far more insulting than nothng at all-

Some people appreciate being tipped (like me!) no matter the amount- it's the personal touch they like- a 'this is for you because you deserve it.'



A scenario for you- two customers, one party of people all business men or suchlike and they leave couple quid on the saucer with the bill...makes me feel as a waitress- i'm doing this cos i feel i have to.



One lady sat on her own, or with her husband, and you bring back their drink, they press a 50p into your hand- 'this is for you, love!' that makes you feel worth it. Not as much money, but given with thought.



So, if you feel uncomfortable tipping, use the personal touch- people appreciate it more- and this includes taxis- if you think they deserve it- give them extra, if not- don't!



Hope this helps somewhat...

Answer 6

I leave a 10% tip for the waiter if they've done a good job BUT nothing if the service was lousy or if they'd already put 1 charge on my bill for service (usually 12%). I have been known to ask for that to be taken off as well if the service has been terrible.



No tips for hairdressers, taxi drivers (they charge too much anyway!) etc...

Answer 7

Another possible reason that the stylist returned the tip is because he was the owner of the establishment. You do not tip the owner.



The standard rules of tipping apply; I reward for service. Average service gets an average tip, bad service gets a bad tip. It is really rude to leave change, less than a dollar, but it gets your point across. When I was a teen (and teens get notoriously bad service, even though we tipped well) my sister was actually insulted by our waiter in addition to the bad service. We left a tip, it read "try being nicer to your customers". No one said the tip had to be in the form of money. :) I wouldn't recommend that course of action, though.

Answer 8

I usually add the tip to the credit card receipt. If I am going to tip in cash I carry the tip separate from what I will use to pay. You can also ask the receptionist for an envelope put the money in it seal it and write the service person's name on it. If I like the job the person does I tip at least 20%, extra if they squeeze me in on the weekend of short notice.

Answer 9

tip is an acronym. it stands for "to insure promptness"

tips should be given if you require a further service from someone: bellhops, hotel porters and the like.

leaving a "tip" has become a measure of service performed

in many cultures tipping is obligatory e.g. france,usa,latin countries. these are really gratuities or service charges i.e." freely given" or an extra "tax" levied by the service provider and legislated.

in the uk tipping is discretionary. if you have recieved poor,lousy or non-existent sevice do not feel obliged to tip. maybe the non-recipient will get the message.

tips are taxable

Answer 10

Always leave SOMETHING.



Leaving a waitress a 3¢ tip for bad service conveys the message much better than leaving nothing due to the fact that some people just don't tip!

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Answer 11

if you get a five back just say can i have the change back in singles please. try not to give someone a handful of change though.. do not be scared to tip say keep the change or this is for you, they will appreciate it and next time you go they will look out for you more, for example whoever it is will try to do an extra special job because they know you are going to make it worth their while.

Answer 12

tipping is going out of style for the man-in-the-street. Most people don't tip anymore as people are paid a fair wage or salary for the job that they do. Most restaurants cover the tip in a cover charge which is already part of the bill.



Tipping is mandatory in up-market restaurants (10%) and at gaming tables (one sizable chip) otherwise don't do it.

Answer 13

You shouldnt tip in coins! Thats rude. Unless it adds up to a significant amount and you had nothing else, but still you should explain it to be polite...("sorry about all the change") Anybody who thinks tipping isnt necessary or tip very little should try one day as a waitress. See how it feels to be treated like crap and then paid crap.

Answer 14

I am normally a confident, sometimes ouspoken woman, but when it comes to tipping I cringe. The amount of money I am giving isnt the problem, its the ACTUAL giving. I know the recipient is used to it and not embarrassed but it doesnt help me.

Answer 15

Well, with waiters their tip starts at 20% for me. If they are no good it goes down to 15% and a few times lower. But there is one waitress at a place we frequent that I always overtip. She must be the best waitress there is! Good one Missy!

Answer 16

Don't be embarrassed to tip someone. When you tip someone, you are thanking them for their help or services. Trust me, they appreciate the extra cash. Do you feel embarrassed when you tell someone thank you? I doubt it. It is the same thing. Just keep telling your self that you are just thanking them.

Answer 17

People should be paid for the work they do! When I go to a restaurant, I am a customer, and I expect their best, and I don't want anyone EXPECTING a tip! It works in Australia, and should be practised here too!

Answer 18

Watch what others do and how the wait person responds. When you find a method that seems favorable, adopt it. Then from there it takes practice to build up your confidence in doing things like this in public.

Answer 19

Nothing for lousy service....



15% for standard service



20% for an outstanding job.



Jim,

Los Angeles, California

Answer 20

thats strange he didnt keep it They usually do

dont give up....for waiters leave 15% on table or mark it on credit receipt

Answer 21

best way to tip is an honest thank you it's priceless who cares what the recipient thinks

Answer 22

Tipping is a nightmare, and should be banned.



I tip all waiters 10%.



I give the barber 10% too.



I say, "this is for you". If there isn't change I ask them to break the note.



Nothing for barrmen, taxis, bellboys or any other parasites.