Is it bad to be a 21 year old virgin? Please help?

Question

I have a major personal dilemma: I am still a virgin- at my age! This is literally driving me insane. It is affecting me psychologically. I feel that there is a part of my life that is missing. All my friends have had sex and I always have to lie to my guy friends about the amount of "action" I get. Also I'm nervous about sex. I'm afraid I might do it wrong or embarrass myself or something. I will be 22 in December and it's killing me inside.

I want to meet a nice girl and take things at an easy pace and see if it develops into a relationship. I want a girlfriend so bad. I know nearly everyone has already done it ,but is it unusual to be a virgin at my age?

Answer 1

Try to date a girl thats just as experienced as you. Find a nice girl who is on the same page as you emotionally and physically wise. Not everyone looses their virginity when thier 18 or 16. To be honest 21 is very young.. you still have the rest of your 20's to loose your virginity, just make sure its with the right girl. Don't you think it would be nice to marry the girl you lost your virginity too? especially if both of u were virgins at the time. Definitly don't take it personally or get a complex with being a virgin still at 21, its normal-- alot of dudes just won't admit it.

Answer 2

No it can be no longer bad in any respect. You are one of the lucky ones who survived hormones. There aren't that many virgins older than 16 years old at the present time. Just right for you that you decided to wait. Don't worry you are not lacking much. The first few occasions are that excellent. Just believe which you could even be a non-virgin, however a non-virgin might never be a virgin. You are very good fortune. I was once one of the dummy teens who gave it up to my boyfriend in excessive tuition. It's now not bad at all and if anybody tells you it is, they're just jealous, due to the fact that they are not able to be a virgin! :)

Answer 3

NO! It's great that you're still a virgin! Save yourself for marriage. That way sex becomes a special thing between you and your "one and only." Isn't it better that she doesn't have to share you with a bunch of other girls? You may not know her yet, but isn't she worth it?

I may be a hopeless romantic but it's the way I feel. I had that treasure taken from me without my consent at a young age, what I wouldn't do to get it back. Losing it messed me up bad in the head and emotions.

Don't you dare give it up to just anyone, you save it for your wedding night. That's what I would do; if I had the choice.

Answer 4

Sex when you feel as you do is never as good as it should be. Get your butt to church and join an age related group and you will meet someone. If the church you go to doesn't have a group for you or no girls then change churches. But relax and know that it will happen in its own time. I respect you for being a virgin at 21.

Answer 5

Socially and emotionally, it is bad to be a virgin at 21. But many guys are 21 year old virgins and lie about it too. Others use prostitutes. That is nothing to be proud of. Many prostitutes are uh-gleeee! And it should be a source of shame to have to pay for sex instead of finding someone who truly wants to have sex with you.



i know you want to meet a nice girl, yadda, yadda, yadda. But if you really want to learn about sex you need a milf. Go on Craigs List or Match.com or one of those lonely loser sites. There is thousands of them on there and they just want one thing from you: sex. Once you learn how to have sex and you learn what you like from an experienced woman, you will have more confidence and then you can meet a younger woman and you can be a man and teach her how to please you.

Answer 6

I think it's best to be a virgin at 21 than to be a promiscuous slut who runs up in every women/men you see. I would rather be pure than to me a whore. There is too many STD's out here now. I have 2 relatives in my family who are living with the HIV virus because of their promiscuity. It does not make you less than a man or a woman if you are a virgin.

Answer 7

Be proud that you are rare in a group. Flaunt it. You're still young, brod.



What's the big deal about having sex? Don't let it be your major pre-occupation.



If you want to meet nice girls, join a club or get a gym membership, volunteer for charitable organizations, etc.

Answer 8

On the contrary, it is good if you are still single. The law of life says that sex should only be done within marriage and only with your wife/husband. I applaud you if you're still a virgin at any age.

You must watch out, because that's why there are many illnesses out there for instance AIDS.

You must protect yourself, because condoms are not 100% protective. They can break.

I don't blame you at all and never mind what others tell you.

Answer 9

It's not a big deal, just try not to think about it. Honestly, if the girl you're dating is into you (whenever you find someone), she will most likely find it sweet... Just don't tell her right off the bat. Don't stress about it, it'll happen when it happens, and when it's right, just let them know in advance, that way either it will be a first for the both of you, or perhaps she can show you the ropes (;

Answer 10

Is nice yo know on this times. s 21 virgin male..is perfet