If you invite people out to your birthday dinner, you're supposed to pay for everyone right?

Question

If you invite people out to your birthday dinner, you're supposed to pay for everyone right?

Answer 1

Birthday Dinner Invite

Answer 2

You're supposed to pay for your guests since you invited them but you can accept if anyone is adamant about pitching in, especially if they did not get you a gift for your birthday. Look around the table, if there is even one person who looks uncomfortable about the suggestion of everyone paying their own way, then you should pay for everyone, making an excuse like, "I got some money for my birthday, so it's not really me who's paying....." That will relieve any tension.



I've been in a small group where all 3 people insisted on paying their own way and pitching in for my meal. Since I was 100% sure they all really wanted to, I accepted.

Answer 3

Either way works. The way I go about it is if you invited everyone, be ready to pay for everyone. However, if someone arranged a surprise or something like that for you, then you shouldn't be ready to pay for anyone's. But then, there are rather cheap people out there. If someone called out a bunch of people on the spot on behalf of you, you should also be ready to pay for everyone.



Anyways, the deal is, if you sense anyone uncomfortable with paying their own shares or your shares, then just pay for everybody's to lose the tension. Some people are really cheap, while some are just really tight with money. The way I see it is, it doesn't really matter who pays as the main purpose of this gathering is to celebrate your birthday and have fun. It's a nice thought and gesture to pay for the birthday boy/girl, but I think the thought is good enough for me. So I usually offer to pay for the bill and let it go from there, since if they really want to pitch in, they will speak up.

Answer 4

It's not rude if you want to celebrate your birthday with your friends and family at dinner.

But you decide a head of the day whether everyone is going to help you with the total of the dinner

and the tip for the waiter. Some can and some can't but they should be given the opportunity.

If you can afford to take a bunch of people out to dinner great.. but most can't afford that much.

My daughter had a dinner for her husband and each family paid for their own.

Answer 5

It should be decided and made clear ahead of time. If you invite people you should expect to pay. If someone objects, graciously give in to their wishes and allow them to pay for themselves.

Ideally, a group gets together and agrees to share the cost to give a dinner in your honor rather than you having to host your own birthday dinner. Or someone holds a dinner for you at their home.

Answer 6

No. I've always paid for myself.

Answer 7

YOU are correct!

Answer 8

You are 100% right. It is very rude to arrange a party for yourself and then attempt to pass the costs off onto your guests. Guests are always free to send a gift along with the letter thanking you for the wonderful party if they feel that you deserve some sort of material show of gratitude.