Question:
When should my boyfriend start contributing to OUR living expenses?
Julia
2008-12-24 09:38:25 UTC
My boyfriend and I were suppose to move in together in July. I had an additional semester of school so we didn’t. We both got separate apartments about a hour apart from each other. He is now going to break his lease to move in with me. He has to pay four months rent to get out of the lease. When should he start contributing to OUR living expenses? I’m in school and working part time so I need the help paying for rent, utilities and such but every time I ask he says he needs to examine things after he pays the four months rent.
Eleven answers:
blues breaker
2008-12-24 09:42:03 UTC
he needs to start paying the minute he moves in. if that's too much for him, maybe you two should consider him staying in his own place til his lease is up.
bainaashanti
2008-12-24 10:09:50 UTC
He should start paying the moment he comes in. If he's there in January, he should start paying in January. I understand he has the extra expenses, but he can't just live with you for free! Has he tried seeing if someone he knows wants to live where he's moving from? Maybe they'll let him slide on the cancellation fee if he finds another tenant, many places will do that. Or if not, he can make payment arrangements with them so that he doesn't have to give them all four months at once and can still pay expenses with you.
Wagon Burner
2008-12-24 10:01:00 UTC
He should pay as soon as he moves in...but with him having to pay 4 months rent of his own that will be impossible.



Maybe he shouldn't move in until his lease is up. That would be the best idea, so when he does move in he can't use the lease as an ex use to not help out.



Can't you two wait?
jimbobthephonecian
2008-12-24 09:48:15 UTC
I assume that your boyfriend had living expenses at his previous place, so he should pay for his half of the living expenses at your place. By living expenses, I mean utilities, groceries,supplies like toilet paper, etc. If you have a disagreement about the rent, then I would get that settled before he breaks his lease.
2008-12-24 10:13:09 UTC
He needs to start right now and he should have stayed where he was until he finished the four months, which is not your problem, he seems to be using that as an excuse and from the sound of it, he has no intention of paying anything. He should borrow the money from somewhere to pay you NOW.
Jen N
2008-12-24 09:51:12 UTC
He should not be moving in with you until he is capable of paying his share. It sounds to me like he needs to finish out his lease, then you two should move in together. That is the adult thing to do, the responsible thing.
Clark S
2008-12-24 09:51:53 UTC
He is putting you on hold financially? Get things worked out before you two "play house". His responsibility begins IMMEDIATELY. Isn't he going to use any utilities? You had better get his head screwed on straight right from the start. Knock off the wishy-washy attitude. He either can or he can't!!! I can see you with a potential leech on your hands.
2016-11-03 14:21:17 UTC
I agree i think of he's using you. He pays for his very own issues.it incredibly is your house of residing he in simple terms moved in! Is he even on the hire? Him asking your son to pay is ridiculous! it incredibly is your son he would not make the say on something on your place or inform you a thank you to strengthen your son! Kick his *** out! he's not something yet a freloading consumer! He has no know for you or your son.in reality i'm annoyed for you! i might bypass the controversy and decrease him loose!
todd n
2008-12-24 09:47:32 UTC
why dont you split the 4 mouths rent and then split everything down the middle.
k j
2008-12-24 09:42:39 UTC
if he is living there he should be paying there regardless of his other expenses. if not he can go back to live with mommy and daddy
red
2008-12-24 11:47:43 UTC
Yesterday. Don't give him a free ride.


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