help writing an apology letter to my parents?

Question

I'm 16, male, in 6th form. I'm not very good with words, i keep a lot inside. If i try and state the kind of message i want to get across to my parents, i would really be thankful if someone could piece it together and make a meaningful apology letter. Heres a very very brief overview of what has happened:
I was sleeping got called for dinner several times, went to the bathroom to wash my hands and then my dad shouted out for me again as he had decided that he wanted to cook us a nice dinner. The house is small, a very small bungalow, i was literally only on the other side of a door and i shouted back "Im coming, shutup." My mum lost it and hit me and swore at me and just shouting abuse at me for a while, i really was kind of shocked at the reaction i kind of shouted it comically as i was only next door i didn't come to the dinner table in the end and just went to my room as i was honestly beyond shocked at how drastically the atmosphere had change. After they had eaten they called me to talk to me and we ended up talking for over an hour and it got a lot deeper. An overview basically my mum saying how disappointed and hurt she was, how im rude and disrespectful not that just night but constantly it has been building up... I was again really shocked as i honestly never intend to be rude or disrespectful, nobody else says i am and they couldn't even give examples of that they moved onto other things about me being lazy, stubborn, not talkative etc. I have a kind of calm empty exterior but i was honestly close to tears, the first time since i had dislocated my thumb when i was 8 years old. After the talk i just went to the bathroom, had a small cry and really was trying to get my head around what had happened and how everything was fine a couple hours ago to probably the biggest split or divide i have had in the relationship with my parents.

I haven't spoken to my parents or seen them since around 8:30pm last night. My mum when she is annoyed intentionally will blank me and be moody with me and she takes a lot of time to get over things..
I appear kind of emotionless like i dont really care about anything but i truly do on the inside and i am always thinking deeply about things, dissecting them, looking at things from all angles, a broader perspective, looking at characteristics i like and trying to apply them to myself to be the best person i can.

Messages i want in the letter:
I never intend to be rude or disrespectful, to anyone, especially my parents.
I do appreciate you and don't take the things you do for me for granted.
Im not great at communicating but i when i do talk to you guys i just find that you can be difficult to talk to.
I am genuinely from the bottom of my heart sorry for being rude to you, i dont want that.
All i want is to be a good person, a good son, and to make you proud of me. I can't show you how much i care and love you guys, how much i want you to be proud of me, i look up to you and always will. I know you don't like me saying mum but i really wish you would relax sometimes, and use me more so you can have time to chill, i mess around just trying to make you smile and laugh.
I hate that i have disappointed you and upset you. I dont do it intentionally, i dont even realise im doing it sometimes until i see the upset on your face and by then it is way too late.
I miss spending some quality time with you guys. I'd love to have a better relationship with you and be a better son for unimaginable parents. I want to do the little things also that make you smile inside. I am sorry.

Please guys put this together for me, add bits, take bits away, rearrange it. You are not just answering a question, you're repairing a relationship, thank you.

Answer 1

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help writing an apology letter to my parents?

I'm 16, male, in 6th form. I'm not very good with words, i keep a lot inside. If i try and state the kind of message i want to get across to my parents, i would really be thankful if someone could piece it together and make a meaningful apology letter. Heres a very very brief overview of...

Answer 2

Gosh. There is a very big communication gap at your house. If this has indeed been going on for many years, you must first understand it is not entirely your fault. That said, it is very decent of you to want to make reparations and a letter is a good first step.

Something like;



Dear Mom and Dad,

Please understand the essence of this letter is an apology and a request. I am sorry about the events over dinner last night (or use the date) I have never meant to be disrespectful or rude. I love you both and hope you will make an effort to better understand me so we can build a strong relationship. I am a quiet, unselfish individual. I like to listen rather than talk all the time. Although it is not obvious, I feel things very intensely and last night’s (again use the date) development hurt me deeply. I hope we can have a quiet discussion about those events as I have more I want to tell you, and please accept my apologies and respect me enough to give me the time I need with you both.



This ought to open the lines of communication with your parents so you can all begin to repair the wounds over the dinner table. Your mom ought not to have hit or sworn at you. Also, no one has the right to try and make you feel guilty and it is WRONG to blank you or sulk around. I mean, who is the adult in that house?

It sounds like you are doing the best you possibly can with ‘unimaginable’ parents. (What does that mean?) Hope you are OK. Good luck.

Answer 3

Hey..You wrote this much.. If you ask me, you can do a much better job at writing or even rearranging this letter than us because its your letter to your parents.You know them more than us.



I think you will feel much more better, if you rebuilt your relationship with your parents with your own words...than someone else's. Even your parents will feel much better that way.



Anyway, its not about the grammar or order of sentences..its about the message you wish to say to your parents....as far as i can see... that is true and deep from your heart ... and will reach them no matter how u say it!! So, Go on ..write your letter and Good Luck!!! I do hope sincerely that your relationship with your parents will get stronger. By the way, parents will always love their children - no matter what - even if they seem angry for a while!!

Answer 4

What you've written is great. You don't need anyone's help at all, and I'm sure your parents will be very pleased to receive it.



Just one thing - don't ever again tell your parents to shut up! That sounds very rude to me, and I'm not surprised they were upset, especially when they were repeatedly calling you to a special dinner and seemingly hadn't had an answer.

Answer 5

Well your doing the right thing and it makes you a good man.



How you feel and what you wrote is sincere and thats all that counts. As long as you speak from the heart its ok.



From here on be obedient and go out of your way to help your parents, with anything! Actions speak louder than words.



Good Luck

Answer 6

The way you put it seems sincerely and effective to me; simply give it to her; I think she'll be impressed and will forgive you.



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