What should I do? I just found out that my husband's father just passed away and we are getting divorced.?

Question

This feels very akward because except for talking to him on New Year's Eve ... very briefly, I haven't had a conversation with him for almost a year. I don't see where he called me, should I call him? This is presenting a real delima.

Answer 1

No. Be gracious, send a sympathy card to his mother if she is still alive. Send one to him. Leave it at that. (And only if they have been nice to you).

Answer 2

What is your relationship with your former in-laws? How ugly is the divorce? If everything is civil, call and express your condolences, send flowers, and attend a viewing. Offer to go to the funeral. Be supportive and kind. Offer to drive people back and forth to whereever. Your class will be remembered for a long time. It may make the divorce a little soother. If you have kids with your ex, all the more reason.

Answer 3

Since you have not spoken in a year, I would at the least send a condolence card. Maybe flowers. Or send the flowers to your mother-in-law if she is still alive.

At times like this, you need to put aside the personal issues and show the compassionate person you are inside.

Good luck.

Answer 4

It just doesn't matter how things stand between you and your husband. The family members and this moment of loss is what's important. Show respect and honor to all that once wished you happiness when you joined the family. If they took the time to be a part of your joyous wedding day, you must take the time to weep with them on such a sad day also.

Answer 5

My parents got divorced 3 years ago, and talked to each other maybe 4 times since my dad moved out. My dad's mom (my gradma) died this summer.



My mom called him and basically just said that she was sorry that she had died and told me dad that his mother had always been so nice to her, and that she had really appreciated all her support during the time they were married. She asked him how he was holding up and he said ok. She said again that she was sorry. And that was it. The whole thing took less then three minutes.



Unless your ex is abusive or still in love with you, I would reccomend doing exactly this.

Answer 6

I think it would be very nice if you gave him a call expressing sympathy and offering condolences;if your call is not welcome,apologize for the "intrusion",wish him the best and hang up knowing that you did yours.

Answer 7

Call him back and offer your condolences to him and the family. Be respectful and tell him you'll say a prayer for the family, then do so.

Answer 8

Offer your condoloences. When my Mother passed, the very first person who came to the wake was my ex son-in-law. I was surprised, but touched by his concern. You'll feel better if you do, especially if you liked your Father-in-law.

Answer 9

call him and offer your condolences. He may be looking for comfort, so maybe he will be grateful to hear from you. If its awkward, just cut it short and tell him that you just wanted him to know you are thinking about him, praying for him, whatever you want to say. I think thats very kind of you to do.

Answer 10

offer a kind shoulder

but if he wants no part of it let him be

Answer 11

you are still officially his wife so me by his side and comfort him anyways