How to get spoiled younger sibling to CLEAN UP?

Question

I share a bathroom with my 21 year old younger, sister and i swear to God, she does not clean at all. She doesn't "take one for the team" so to speak. There could be a dead animal in the corner from who knows and she would rather let it be than clean it up. I'm not a messy, messy person but when it gets messy (from the both of us), I clean everything; not "selected" cleaning. I've never seen her clean the bathroom at all. The plug in the tub could be full - I'll ask her and she'll ask, "oh I don't know". There's leftover dirt and sud in the tub and she'd leave it there. The toilet paper can run out and it's still there hanging without any paper. The makeup remover towelettes would run out and she'd leave the packet still there -common sense, you're the last person who used it, throw it away! I've called my parents about the situation and they're (of course) easy on her (youngest) and defend her and give excuses to this behavior. It's batsh8t crazy, bullsh8t. Grow up.
I've been blunt with her in the past - she makes the "i'm right" argument and recently in past years, when I do show my anger (which has been hard since I've always been the protective older sister but now that's changing), she does listen...but makes it seem like she did it on her way. I don't know it I should use that same sarcasm (she has) and put on her and say, "look. when this runs out. We put it in here. This is called the trash.".... please help....

Answer 1

Give your mother a guided tour of the bathroom you share with your sister, when it's at its worst. Then tell her, "I can't even get her to rinse out the bathtub, replace the toilet paper, or put her trash in the waste basket. I need to use your bathroom, until Suzie gets with the program! You know I'll keep everything neat and clean."



Keep your personal soap, wash cloths, towel, toilet articles, and cosmetics in a portable basket, and take it in and out of your parents' bathroom each time, so it'll be just as though you never used it. Don't leave a single thing of yours in there.



If you ever find yourself sharing an apartment with other people your age, you will probably have to confront this whole issue. It comes as a shock to many young people leaving home that they'll have to do their own household maintenance.

Answer 2

its odd to say, but for some of us, cleaning things seems to take ridiculously low priority. I have actually come to terms with it..I realized that cleanliness and organization somehow made me feel less alive. A dynamic enviornment helps make me feel like me. Of course, I eventually DO clean up, but the idea of cleaning things up all the time makes me...i dont know, upset. Things like the bathroom i can understand: my messiness is messy, but no harmful or germ-incubating.



You may have to pick your battes. If so, focus on thsoe areas which are most destructive. basically giving her a pass might not seem fun, or fair, but ifi t gets the worst of it taken care of, it may be worth it.

Answer 3

some people just don't care about dirt and don't care or understand how other people feel about dirt. You shouldn't clean up after her if things run out put them in her room rather than the bin and get your own seperate toiletries so you can keep track on whats yours and hers instead of bickering over who puts it in the bin. My boyfriend is like this and it is like living with a child so at least she is only your sister and you can tell her to do one if you want!!! LOL

Answer 4

I'd clean just your side of things and leave the rest, if u want to be evil I'd purposely mess up or "accidentally" misplace her things like make up, face wash etc so when she freaks out just say if she kept the bathroom more tidy she wouldnt have this problem. I'd throw away her things on purpose just to make a point.

Answer 5

She's not listening to a word you say so if you can stand it, leave her mess and she might realise on day that the bathroom fairy isn't coming anymore. It will probably take weeks,...or even months. Good luck

Answer 6

Maybe you should let the bathroom get dirty enough for her to WANT to clean it because it's just that bad. She'll realize the pain you're getting put through.