Is expecting always mean golddigging?

Question

A golddigger is a one who only dates or marry men just for money or gifts. For her, money could be more important than relationship. But if you marry a guy whom you love or is in love relationship, practically, is it just possible never to expect anything from him no matter how much you love him or value your relation more than money. I don't mean you have to expect something expensive or which he can't afford, but if you see with practical approach, is it wrong to expect little gifts, basic things from him. Say its valentines day, and is it wrong if you expect from him anything like flowers, or card or atleast a dinner. And maybe you may not expect, but how would u feel if he don't do anything though he can afford?

If he really loves you, he will do atleast something to make you feel good. If husband really loves his wife then he will surely take care of her needs, isn't it. Here where the problem, its not that you only be with someone for money, but when you are with someone, isn't it natural that you expect atleast some from him.

How would you feel if the guy with whom you are with, he at one place claims to love you, but don't have heart to spend much on you like not even give you a card or a flowers, not even take u to dinner, or even he has to call u, he cares for phone bill more than talking to u, he do this even though he can reasonably afford.

Is it wrong to expect from your husband to once in while spend on eating out, candle light, movies, basic things, little gifts like cards or anything which makes you feel good, etc. especially when he can afford it. But there are some types of men who wants a women for sex and chores, and they keep claiming that they love her, but from hearts of hearts they don't have heart to spent anything on her, they just want a wife to bear kids and take care of home, and when wife complaints that he never takes her even for movie or dinner or not even giving anything except food and shelter then she is tagged as golddigger or she is told that all that is more important for you than your husband.

Can golddigging be mistaken with any expectation which is reasonable?

Answer 1

No, expecting little love tokens is not the same as being a Gold Digger. When people care about each other, they will naturally give small gifts and show their affection as much as possible. My boyfriend (of 2 years) and I are still in college, so we don't really have a lot of money. At ALL. But we will still do little things for each other. He bought me flowers on Valentines day, and took me out to dinner just last night, which was the first time we could afford to do so this semester.

Even poor people do sweet things for each other =)



Conversely, if you are in a relationship with someone who absolutely refuses to spend ANY money on you, then it is a major red flag. Rich or poor, money should never be more important that your significant other.

Answer 2

Treat your husband the way you want to be treated.

Teach him by example.

Do little things for him like make his favorite food, give him a back rub, even the occasional flowers.

Tell him kindly what you would like -- a phone call, a quiet evening where you don't have to cook (maybe he could prepare the meal?), a day out with him walking in nature (take a picnic). Once you put your mind to it, there are many things the two of you could do together to express your care for one another which don't have to cost a lot of money, if any at all!

Actions speak louder than words. However, you could write him a letter (or card) telling him why you married him, what you love about him, how you feel.

Everyone wants to be acknowledged and appreciated.

Answer 3

i'm a guy and what you're "searching ahead to" isn't gold-digging. What you pick are some elementary products that a guy can and may do each and every so oftne to teach you he cares about you. definite, i'm married 6 years now and also you study right now that that is little issues right here and there which will shop your spouse chuffed.

Answer 4

Yes. You "expect" to be rewarded simply for being with your current male.



What does this man get in return, other than the pleasure of your company, which YOU feel should be enough?



And how much must he spend to cement his love with you?

If he buys you a Kindle is that enough?

Or must it be a Kindle Fire because, well lets talk frank, you think you deserve it?



How much does a man have to pay for your company?

How much more does he have to pay for, shall we say, MORE of your Company?

Answer 5

I personally experienced this, what you are thinking is correct, i'll tell you if a man loves you he'll surely do some as you've mention abave, and though if he do not treat you thatway, it doesn't mean that he does not love you. Ofcourse he may love you but he loves him more than you. When a man loves a women he cares....

So expecting from him is natural..

Answer 6

NO it's a clear difference.

Answer 7

boy....people have got so much time to write all this