what would you do if you saw a co worker going thru another co workers email?

Question

I am really torn on this, I am not sure what to do. I saw a co worker going thru another co workers email looking for emails that night have been about her. I like this girl but I think that is wrong. She is sweetly strong arming me not to say anything to any one about it. I don't know what to do. I do not want her to lose her job because she is a nice girl but it is just not right. Help me please. What would you do?

Answer 1

If I were in this situation, I would write the snoop an email saying how disappointed I am in her for going through *Name's* email and then BCC it to the coworker that was hacked.



You can say that you have no idea how she got the email, maybe she had gone through the snoop's email and came across it? LOL!

Answer 2

I wouldn't tell the person that another co worker was reading their e-mail nor would I confront the person. That would cause a whole lot of extra drama. Seems like there's enough there already.



I would tell a supervisor. The supervisor "should" be professional enough to not give the name of the person making the report when meeting with the employee. Unless this person has a history of mishaps at work and has been written up for other incidents then she may not be terminated. She may simply hang by a thread for a very long time.



But, I would report it. It's tough because many people are struggling now and no one wants to be responsible for anyone losing their job or being demoted. However, sometimes you have to ask yourself do I really want to work with a person like this? Who knows what else she's done and what she may do to you if she gets ideas like this very often. Not mention, her strong arming may be sweet, but it is still strong arming. She's sounds like a piece of work and honestly you may regret letting her get away with it. She may at some point use it against you to try something else.

Answer 3

First off, you are completely delusional if you still think she is a "nice" girl while searching emails and "sweetly strong arming" you. Of course she needs to be reported.



I think that I would tell her to turn herself in within the hour, or that I will be speaking to the boss. This lady SHOULD be fired, and no one should stand up for a worker like this. It is dishonest, and unprofessional and at this point you have become an enabler.



Additional: since she already seems to know that you know...there is no way of being anonymous, as others have suggested. It is either do the right thing, or just enable her some more, as I see it.

Answer 4

Oh this is terrible I am really sorry to hear what you have been through. That must be horrible for you. Your wife has betrayed your trust more than once. Her mom sounds like a bully. I know it is hard but I think you should just tell her you want a divorce and be really strong about it. It could actually end up saving her marriage. Maybe if she sees what she is about to throw away she will snap out of it. I wish u all the best x

Answer 5

I think it's better if you don't get involved. Somehow this will come back as you being the bad guy. It's your word against hers and my bet is she'll deny it. Plus, it won't do anything but stir trouble to tell her. But, I think you're right in being upset about it. If it was me, I would start keeping my distance from the girl who did that. If she asks, I'd say something like

" I have a hard time with what I saw you do to Jane.".



I guess another thought is that you could report it to management. The only problem there is again you run the risk of somehow getting yourself in some kind of stew.

Answer 6

The right thing to do is report her, but I'd ask her why she would do such a thing. People usually don't go rummaging through others personal belongings unless they have something untoward in mind. I'd definitely find out why she felt the need to be reading others personal business before I made a decision. If she is such a nice person and you have such confidence in her intentions towards you, then she shouldn't have a problem exposing herself to you. Appearances can be deceiving, if you don't trust her enough, you should report her. ;-)

Answer 7

it's a grievous trespass of privacy if not illegal. I would talk to the spy if you were good friends... but i'd tell management and let them inform the parties involved if you feel like it's not your place to butt in directly. that's a crappy thing to do though, looking at other people's stuff. A slow death by zerox would be a fitting punishment in my book.

Answer 8

Go talk to HR.

This is a huge violation of privacy, and knowing it happened without coming forward can possibly get YOU prosecuted!

HR can find that out without anyone "telling". so don't worry about retaliation.

Good luck- SHE is the violator, not you!

Answer 9

I think you should stay out of it. If this girl tries to involve you in any way, I would let her know that you do not think its right to do that and would rather not be a part of it.

Answer 10

I think you should mind your own business unless she was doing something that could hurt somebody or destroy a boss's e-mail. Ever heard of tattling?

Answer 11

Report this to HR, and let them handle it. This isn't your job.

Answer 12

let me ask you this! if it were your e-mail she was going Thur and a co-worker saw her would you want to know? she needs to be dealt with!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 13

Stay out of it.