Is this too mean (or douchey ) of a response to an argument?

Roman

2012-06-28 00:55:43 UTC

My friend and I argue about stuff all the time, but this one is a bigger deal because my friend decided to go about arguing it in an extra douchey way. It started in person and ended up on Facebook as usual. Is my proposed response too mean?

Here's part of the argument:

Him:
You are speaking as if every human fends entirely for itself and does not face challenges as a group. humans have many types of intelligence and so when they work together as they always have their knowledge and power grows together as one, keeping eachother alive. You are failing to see certain parts of the picture and seem to be selectively choosing evidence to fund your argument. Also I would appreciate it if you would stop trying to come out on top of our discussions by sending me things that are barely relevant on fb like opinion pieces that are I could just as easily find for my side.

Me (proposed response):

I never said that. I'm just saying those that are most likely to be successful in procreation are those who are able to adapt to their ever changing environment the quickest or at all, as well as, if necessary for survival, working together as a group most effectively. The people who are able to achieve both these things are the ones who are the most intelligent.

There's no need for me to selectively choose evidence to fund my argument, as what I'm arguing has already been widely accepted as fact. A quick search on Google or Google Scholar produces thousands of results showing that the most adaptable (aka the most intelligent) are those most likely to survive, and, in turn, procreate. The excerpt I shared with you in my previous message was taken from the first result of the Google search I did on this topic, a Wikipedia page, found here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Evolution_o…

I fail to see why you consider what I had previously shared as "barely relevant." I chose this source to share because I found it to be based more on fact as opposed to opinion. I'd be interested to see some evidence to support your side of this "argument."

Also, in future discussions we may have, I'd ask that you refrain from saying things such as "are you ******* kidding me" in a condescending tone, as well as just coming across as extremely condescending altogether. Although I have learnt to not let this get to me personally, it detracts hugely from the point you are trying to get across, and makes me all the less likely to genuinely consider what you have to say. I know I'm not perfect at times, but I've been trying hard not to come across in a similar way, as I want what I have to say to be listened to.