Do i really need to go to my Prom?

Question

Well, im a junior in high school and i was just wondering about next year, when im like a senior, and whether or not should i go to prom or not, even though i really dont want to go at all.my reasons for not wanting to go is ,i go to a "ghetto" high school so i dont really listen to or have the same taste as everyone else in there, i'm pretty much a very shy quiet girl with no friends (maybe one but its not really close), and im pretty much that outcast dorky girl that everyone think is weird cause i dont talk much. any way, i also dont want to be in a situation where i have no one to talk to or no one talks to me, having no friends to laugh with, having to take a picture all alone causei have no date (i dont think any guys are attracted to me ) and plus i dont even know how to dance?lol. i dont want my parents to be angry at me either cause i didnt go (im the youngest) even though they know my situationat school and know im like an outcast there (they tried getting me help but didnt work out) or everyone beng ashame of me. yes i understand that they say "prom is surpose to be one of the most important nights of you life" but they also said "your best years is your teenage years and high school years" but so far mines been like a living Hell (full of depressions and such).So, should i go or not, even though i really dont want to go at all, but i dont want to fell bad about myself?

Answer 1

I totally felt the same way about not going to prom.



I mean, I think everyone should go despite what their social status is, you know? It's just one of the moments (good or bad) that you'll remember as apart of high school.



I wasn't going to go to my prom because I had no idea how to dance (still don't!) and I went anyways. It was fun even though our decorations were super lame sauce and everyone was dancing like they were making babies!



But I think you should go. You don't have to stay the WHOLE night; it could be for 5 minutes or whatever else but as long as you go. The whole dressing up experience is funner than the prom itself.



You're only a junior you can do a lot in a whole year in a half (when you're a senior) to improve your social status such as making friends, being more comfortable with your appearance, and other things as well.



It really is fun despite it being a total cliche. If you're parents want you to go so badly then I would make them pay for it!



: )

Answer 2

You have described my high school experience exactly!!! I was also adamant about not going to prom but was encouraged to go so i dressed up and went. It was amazing! People couldn't believe my transformation and said i was pretty (which i rarely hear). I felt like cinderella for one night. And even got asked out a couple of times afterwards. I am a senior in college now and prom was still the best night of my life. Gooooo!!! Make yourself really stunning. It sounds like you are already beautiful just show the rest of the world what you've got. The worst thing that can happen is you have a boring night. But i suspect you will love it! Good luck!

Answer 3

Prom is only okay under the best circumstances, and even that is only because afterward, sex usually takes place. Thats probably why people say its so important. It isn't. The prom itself is nothing special and I highly doubt you'll miss it. If high school has been a bad time for you, its not going to get magically better in one night. If anything, it could put a very unpleasant cap on it. Teenagers are not nice to loners at social events.



Not only do you not need to go, in your case, I would recommend against it. You'd just be wasting a night and a nice dress.

Answer 4

If you don't want to go, why force yourself? I was exactly like you in high school. I never went to any dances. But my senior year I actually got my first boyfriend, and everybody kept telling me I neeeeeeeded to go because it was SO great and I would regret it. So, I went. And it sucked. I can't dance, neither could my date. It was pretty lame, I would have much preferred to sit at home with him watching movies or do something else fun.



If prom/dances aren't really your thing, don't be fooled into thinking this will be the best night of your life just because it's prom. Prom isn't magical, you might not love it, especially if you already have it in your head that you don't want to go.

Answer 5

Putting all the crap aside the real reason u dont want to go to prom is because u dont think u can get a date.

I can tell u now that is rubbish. You can get a date. you just need to be pro active about it.

Stop thinking those negative thoughts and work towards what u "really" want to do.

You see if u really did not want to go u would just not go. Its that simple.

But because u raised this issue there is an underlying issue that is preventing you from wanting to go.

To get a date u just need to maintain your individuality but at the same time make yourself attractive to other people so you get one. Things like getting your hair done, new clothes etc. that extra care people will notice and everything works from there.

Developing a friendship with someone of the opposite sex is enough for you to secure that date. You still have time to do it and is a goal u can work towards.

Answer 6

I think you should go. Even if you only have that one friend, you guys she go together. We I went to prom I went with one of my close friends Amanda;together we went with a group.

I'm not gonna lie to you, the only fun we had was the limo ride there and when we had dinner together. The prom itself was all that great. but then again we expected too much. When we got there Amanda and I took our picture together then headed upstairs to dance and listen to the music. Half the time we were just standing around talking aboout the entire thing.

The whole point is, we went out of our ways just to have a little fun. You only go through high school once, make the most out of it. Trust me, I used to be like you back in school. But eventually I said screw my comfort bubble and started doing what I wanted because I started having fun.

Overall it will be your choice if you want to go or not. Just don't stress yourself out about it. If you want to go, go for yourself. If you don't, get some ice cream, movie and chill at home.



Good luck!

Answer 7

If you don't want to go then don't go. There's no rule no law saying that you have to go.

Don't feel bad if you don't go. You're not going to be the only one, I can guarantee someone else in your school is in the same position you are. Plus proms are expensive.



But if a little inkling of you later on says go because you want to go, then do it. You'll never know.

Answer 8

I didn't go to prom, even though my friends asked me to go, i chose not to go b/c i didn't want to spend the money, because it was too expensive for only 4 hours, because i knew I wouldn't enjoy myself, and because really I didn't feel like going! and look, nothing has happened b/c i didn't go, nothing is going to change, you're not going to be the outkast or loser if you don't go, so if you don't want to go, then don't go! If you go you're probably gping to end up being bored and regret it, so think it through, but there's nothing wrong with not going, it's not tthe end! and it's not going to hun t you for the rest of your life allright, so just do whatever makes you happy :]

Answer 9

well if you dont go to prom you might spend the rest of your life wondering if you made a huge mistake. what you could do is go totally makeover extreme for the prom and show up all beautiful and make every guy run after you. :) but if you really DONT want to go under ANY CIRCUMSTANCES then dont. nobodys going to force u.

Answer 10

"Prom is one of the most important moments of your life".



What kind of pretentious, clueless ******* moron told you this?



It's all pretentious bs anyway. Don't worry about it.





"well if you dont go to prom you might spend the rest of your life wondering if you made a huge mistake"





Lol. Maybe if you spend the rest of your life as a heroin addict, sure.

Answer 11

i really don't think you will regret it

if you had a lot of friends at your school and they all went then you may later

but to go their by yourself with no one to talk to it would feel awkward and lonely. Having bad memories from your prom is worse then having none at all.



but who knows if you make friends then you'll may want to go

Answer 12

You definitely need to go. It'll be something that you'll have for the rest of your life.

Answer 13

nope.



You don't feel school spirit, don't have a date, don't have the money or time to go?



Don't go.



That goes for both jr and sr. years.